A Reddit user going by the handle “european_douchebag” posted a surreptitious photo of a Sikh woman with the caption “i’m not sure what to conclude from this.” The user’s apparent confusion stems from the fact that the woman—bound by her religion not to cut her hair or alter her body—has an abundance of dark, untrimmed facial hair. The mind of european_douchebag was SO INCREDIBLY BLOWN by the fact that women have hair on their bodies—and, yes, faces—and that some women are bold, self-assured, and pious enough not to cave to western beauty standards (and gender expectations), there was nothing for him to do but post her photo online and wait for the abuse to flood in.
But then something totally lovely and unexpected happened. The woman in the photo responded:
Hey, guys. This is Balpreet Kaur, the girl from the picture. I actually didn’t know about this until one of my friends told on facebook. If the OP wanted a picture, they could have just asked and I could have smiled :) However, I’m not embarrased or even humiliated by the attention [negative and positve] that this picture is getting because, it’s who I am. Yes, I’m a baptized Sikh woman with facial hair. Yes, I realize that my gender is often confused and I look different than most women. However, baptized Sikhs believe in the sacredness of this body - it is a gift that has been given to us by the Divine Being [which is genderless, actually] and, must keep it intact as a submission to the divine will. Just as a child doesn’t reject the gift of his/her parents, Sikhs do not reject the body that has been given to us. By crying ‘mine, mine’ and changing this body-tool, we are essentially living in ego and creating a seperateness between ourselves and the divinity within us. By transcending societal views of beauty, I believe that I can focus more on my actions. My attitude and thoughts and actions have more value in them than my body because I recognize that this body is just going to become ash in the end, so why fuss about it? When I die, no one is going to remember what I looked like, heck, my kids will forget my voice, and slowly, all physical memory will fade away. However, my impact and legacy will remain: and, by not focusing on the physical beauty, I have time to cultivate those inner virtues and hopefully, focus my life on creating change and progress for this world in any way I can. So, to me, my face isn’t important but the smile and the happiness that lie behind the face are. :-) So, if anyone sees me at OSU, please come up and say hello. I appreciate all of the comments here, both positive and less positive because I’ve gotten a better understanding of myself and others from this. Also, the yoga pants are quite comfortable and the Better Together tshirt is actually from Interfaith Youth Core, an organization that focuses on storytelling and engagement between different faiths. :) I hope this explains everything a bit more, and I apologize for causing such confusion and uttering anything that hurt anyone.
I know that this post ISN’T a funny post but I felt the need to apologize to the Sikhs, Balpreet, and anyone else I offended when I posted that picture. Put simply it was stupid. Making fun of people is funny to some but incredibly degrading to the people you’re making fun of. It was an incredibly rude, judgmental, and ignorant thing to post.
/r/Funny wasn’t the proper place to post this. Maybe /r/racism or /r/douchebagsofreddit or /r/intolerance would have been more appropriate. Reddit shouldn’t be about putting people down, but a group of people sending cool, interesting, or funny things. Reddit’s been in the news alot lately about a lot of cool things we’ve done, like a freaking AMA by the president. I’m sorry for being the part of reddit that is intolerant and douchebaggy. This isn’t 4chan, or 9gag, or some other stupid website where people post things like I did. It’s fucking reddit. Where some pretty amazing stuff has happened.
I’ve read more about the Sikh faith and it was actually really interesting. It makes a whole lot of sense to work on having a legacy and not worrying about what you look like. I made that post for stupid internet points and I was ignorant.
So reddit I’m sorry for being an asshole and for giving you negative publicity. Balpreet, I’m sorry for being a closed minded individual. You are a much better person than I am Sikhs, I’m sorry for insulting your culture and way of life. Balpreet’s faith in what she believes is astounding.
Holy shit, internet, I don’t even know you anymore! I never thought something would come out of the seeping necrotic abscess that is Reddit that would actually make my day better, but wow. MY HEART GREW THREE SIZES THIS DAY.
Portman skipped the premiere of her film Star Wars Episode I: The Phantom Menace, so she could study for her high school final exams.
In 2003, Portman graduated from Harvard College with an A.B. degree in psychology. “I don’t care if [college] ruins my career,” she told the New York Post. “I’d rather be smart than a movie star.” […]
Portman took graduate courses at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem in the spring of 2004. In March 2006, she was a guest lecturer at a Columbia University course in terrorism and counterterrorism, where she spoke about her film V for Vendetta. Portman has professed an interest in foreign languages since childhood and has studied French, Japanese, German, and Arabic.
As a student, Portman co-authored two research papers that were published in scientific journals. Her 1998 high school paper, “A Simple Method to Demonstrate the Enzymatic Production of Hydrogen from Sugar,” co-authored with scientists Ian Hurley and Jonathan Woodward, was entered in the Intel Science Talent Search. In 2002, she contributed to a study on memory called “Frontal Lobe Activation during Object Permanence: Data from Near-Infrared Spectroscopy” during her psychology studies at Harvard. (Wiki)
The source video is very, very worth watching. A few things to point out:
The young woman in the dark coat is continually trying to escape from the man. She has spoken to him, she’s pulled away, she’s even tried to walk away before he dragged her back. She hit him as a last resort but it didn’t do anything, he just got more aggressive.
The girl in the white jacket was walking by, recognized that a bad situation was happening, stopped, and intervened. At 0:28 she calls the man out, and continues to call him out until he breaks off attacking the young woman in the dark coat and turns his aggression on her. At which point she defends herself—and then she escorts the young woman in the dark coat safely away.
This is a hero.
it’s really satisfying to watch him crumple to the ground and heave
Escuse u, but the definition of feminism is equality. I believe what you be protesting is feminazism.
I need feminism because of the skewed views people like you choose to ignorantly spew.
Dear people who disagree with this post,
Feminism is sexist.
It’s in the very name. feminism.
Men have just as many disadvantages. They aren’t allowed to cry, do housework, be a hairdresser, sew/knit, and they’re expected to hold the door open for women, give up their seats, pay for the meal, spoil the woman, be the main source of income, and so much more.
Feminism is just fighting for the “rights” of women only. Feminists want all the rights of a man, with none of the drawbacks.
I propose we start a new belief rights group thing. Equalism: striving for the rights of all humans, no matter of sex, gender, sexuality, race, age, or any other traits.
Holy motherfuck. As a man teenage boy, whatever, who is certainly aware of the fact that we have problems too, I say that this post is complete and utter BULLSHIT.
Patriarchy is the reason we can’t do supposedly feminine things like cry or do housework. We’re expected to “hold the door open for women, give up their seats, pay for the meal, etc” That’s called being a polite person, maybe? Who ever said women can’t do the same things for men? Where in feminism did it say women wanted special treatment?
And hey, guess what? Feminism a wants to break the patriarchy, which is the source of many of the problems for men! Holy shit!
Now, I’m going to assume the person who accused feminism of sexism is in a position of immense privilege. But so am I, and despite being a well-off, straight white guy, I’m a feminist.
Why am I a feminist? Because women have it a lot worse than men. From my position of privilege, I don’t feel qualified to make a comprehensive list, so I’ll hope someone else will help me with that bit.
I agree wholeheartedly with the person above…. Allow me to expand:
Feminism means equality. If you want to be able to cry, as a man, and not be labelled as a “girl” for doing so, feminism is something you should support (calling someone a woman should not be an insult). Saying something like “men have it just as hard” in a defense is absolutely ridiculous.
If a man is sexually assaulted, is he asked if what he was wearing provoked the attacker?
If a man wears a shirt with say, Captain America’s shield on it, is he labelled as a “fake nerd”?
If a man sleeps with a woman every day, is he considered “disgusting” and is the act “shameful”?
We are not “playing victim” you sexist fucking idiots (yes, women can be sexist too, it’s part of the whole “equal” thing that feminism has going). We are standing up for our right to do everything a man can do: we have to work twice as hard to get the same pay, for example.
Now, that isn’t to say that men don’t have their own issues because of this fundamentally sexist view you’re promoting:
Men are expected to get what, a few weeks leave if their child is born? A woman gets longer - why can’t men and women have the same amount of leave? because people like you think that we don’t need feminism.
Feminism means equality. The definition of the noun “equal” is a person or thing considered to be the same as another in status or quality. Does this in any way mean “men are evil” or “women are better”? Or are you genuinely that fucking blinded by patriarchy and their ideals of any woman standing up for herself that you think it’s better to sit down and just put up with the kitchen jokes and being called a “bimbo”?
Or, better yet, if you don’t want feminism, we should remove you from having the ability to do anything that feminism has accomplished already.
Without feminism you would not have (among many other things):
Your right to vote.
Your right to work.
The ability to wear anything you want.
The crime of rape (if you were raped in an Ancient Greek society, you would have been immediately divorced and considered “soiled” and “impure”).
Female writers (Mary Shelley and Emily Bronte had to pretend to be men to have their books published).
The ability to not have a child (again, in many societies prior to the feminist movement, if you were infertile or didn’t want children, you were a disgrace).
Feminism means equality. It is not to say that men are any less than women, it is the movement that makes men and women equal.
A man should be able to wear pink and not look “too girly”.
A man should be able to watch Mean Girls or She’s the Man and not be “too girly”.
A man should be able to wear make-up and not be “too girly”.
A man should be able to hang around with loads of girls without being either a “playa” or “too girly”.
Being feminine is not shameful. I stand for men as well as women. We should be able to do what we want, and be seen as equal. No-one is better than anyone else.
I have to use a MALE pseudonym online so people don’t tell me to shut up because I’m a girl. So people don’t disregard my opinion because I have tits and a fucking vagina. I have to use it so people don’t automatically go “tits or gtfo” or “women shouldn’t like ___”. How fucking stupid do you have to be to think that it’s not intelligence that matters, but what someone has in their pants?
Feminism doesn’t make being a stay at home mother or father any less of a feat. If we were all feminists, we wouldn’t give a flying fuck what people did.
I don’t want kids: everyone tells me “you’ll change your mind” and “it’s the best thing a woman can do”. Do you have any idea how insulting that is? Who cares?
Abortions are necessary. If a woman is raped, or if a man’s condom splits, and you’re not able to get an abortion, you are condemning them to a life of misery.
No birth control? Not only are you promoting the idea that a woman must want to have a child or else she is worthless, you’re also aiding the spread of STDs.
There are so many more things we need before we are 100% equal. It shouldn’t matter what our genitals are at all. Nor should it matter what skin colour you are, what religion you are, what your sexuality is - who gives a fuck?
Yeah, of course we don’t need feminism. Shut up before you lower everyone else’s IQ.
FUCK YOU if you think that street harassment is a “compliment” or “no big deal” or that it’s “irrational” of us to be afraid because “what’s actually gonna happen.” Fuck you, fuck you, fuck you some more.